Why Every Child Need To Have Independent Thinking Skills

This concept of raising the independent thinking child is one that is very dear to me, I have been sharing my thoughts around raising the independent thinking child for the past two years. In my research I found that the reason children are being molested can be traced to the fact that they were not taught to think.

The lack of independent thinking skills is the reason we are increasingly having 30-year-olds still under their parent’s roofs, this is still happening because we have children who are being spoon-fed. Today we are not just raising children who are not able to think, we are also raising children who are entitled and irresponsible.

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Raising an independent-thinking child in this time and age is no longer negotiable. It has become an essential life skill that children need as they grow older and interact with the changing world around them.Independent thinking starts the day you give birth to your child. A child\’s formative years play a vital role in shaping them to become independent-thinkers.

In today\’s blog post, I\’ll point out reasons why parents need to raise independent thinking children but before we go into that, lets look at the downsides of raising children who can\’t think independently.

1 . Advancement and Innovation. Children who are just followers are as a result of their lack of independent thinking skills. Innovation is as a result of independent thinking children not obedient thinking children. Most parents think that raising obedient children is the goal because of our understanding of obedience, When you raise kids who are not independent thinkers, they just follow instructions without having a mind of their own.

2 .The School Does Not Build Independent Thinkers: Because the school follows the teach to test method where emphasis is laid on failure and success, they do not necessarily raise independent thinkers as result of this the responsibility now falls on you as a parent to raise independent thinking childre . When we don’t teach our children to be independent thinkers , they take on the herd mentality, i.e: following the crowd.

3 .Children who lack Confidence and Are Afraid of Leading: Children who lack independent thinking skills prefer to be submissive and this leads to being afraid of making mistakes because they\’ve been taught that mistakes are wrong but on the contrary mistakes are great tools for raising an independent thinker.

5 .They Get Stuck In Bad Relationships: When I hear of people who are stuck in abusive relationships and can\’t leave such relationships , I always trace it back to the lack of independent thinking skills. Without independent thinking skills, people do not know how to make tough decisions to save themselves. Life can be tough, you need to be able to remove yourself from the toughest of issues.

Having seen the downsides, let\’s take a look at why it is important to bring up a child with independent-thinking skills.

1 . They Make The Right Life Choices: Children who are raised to be independent thinkers make the right life choices like the choice of a spouse .

2 .They Don’t Worry About Fitting In :
Independent thinkers stand out, infact you can easily pick them out from a crowd. Independent thinkers do not look for ways to fit into a crowd or be part of a herd. When you raise an independent thinker, the child understands who they are and do not need validation to live for themselves.

3 . Independent Thinkers Learn Empathy: Most people who can think for themselves know and understand that life isn\’t about control but being able to accommodate everyother person.

4 .Independent Thinkers Are More Trustworthy: Independent thinkers are more trustworthy. People can comfortably partner with them in business or invest in their business because they have been able to build a trust system.

5. Independent Thinkers Live a value-based lifestyle: Independent thinkers are driven by values, When the foundation of your home is built on a strong value system, you replace rules with values because rules are obeyed while values are internalised.

6. They do not live to please people or say yes when they need to say no: An independent thinking child isn\’t afraid to say no to anyone at the appropriate time even to their parents. The first thing you need to teach your child is how to say no to you because if they can\’t do so at home, they can\’t say no to an outsider. The inability to say no is why children are abused and unable to report. This implies that your child doesn\’t trust you and it\’s a big problem. I keep saying that authority is trust and respect, authority isn\’t force and control. The moment you lose trust and respect, you have lost control. You must accept NO as a part of your process in your parenting journey.

7 .Independent Thinkers Have The Ability to Seek Help : Independent thinkers can seek help, to learn what they do not know. When you raise independent thinkers, they easily go out of their way to find knowledge and learn more.

9 .They Are Never Stuck In Any Inappropriate Situation. They know how to analyze the situation and figure out an escape route. They are not fear-stricken when they find themselves in difficult situations.

10 .They become leaders. Becoming leaders doesn\’t necessarily mean being the president, governor, etc. but they\’ll possess the ability to lead people in small spheres because they think differently.