Busy schedules and deadlines can turn eve most dedicated parents too. leave their child’s academic growth solely in the hands of school or lesson teachers.
But unfortunately or fortunately, the key to unlocking the child’s true learning potential begins right at home. Even the best intentional parents make mistakes that unintentionally hinder their children from learning. Here you will be equipped with the tools that you’ll need to identify and overcome these common mistakes and how to nurture your child’s natural love for learning and set them on the path of academic success.
But the first thing to know is that the key to unlocking the child’s potential begins at home. It doesn’t happen outside the home. The school does the job of enhancement. But unfortunately, we have swapped roles.
The 5 Parenting Mistakes
- Neglecting Emotional Support : Many times parents are focused on the grades which leads to over-emphasising grades and performance without acknowledging the emotional well-being of the child. It’s possible to raise a child who just performs and does not learn. This is exactly how many of us learnt in the past, we only performed, we didn’t learn. Now we are turning our children into performance freaks, so instead of learning, all they do is perform, and this affects their mental health. The result is that emotional stress can hinder cognitive functions which eventually affects the child’s ability to learn and to focus effectively.
The epidemic we have now is that children leave school at 20, but are confused about what to do, not working, not doing anything, bingeing on Netflix and sharing on TikTok. These are children who graduated with good grades, yet are stuck, many of them are trophy children. The trophy child is the child who usually suffers most from this particular parenting mistake. So as a parent, you must be careful in your emphasis on good grades. Education is first internal, then external. Creativity is internal, it’s not learnt on the screen or in the school. One of the ways to address this problem is to foster a supportive environment where addresses emotional needs and fosters a positive attitude towards learning and this happens in the home. The only place children learn is at home. Every single tech giant had fathers who had garages where creativity was fostered. Where is your home garage?
2. Lack of Effective Communication: Assuming that academic progress is solely the school’s responsibility leasing to minimal communication about the child’s learning experiences. Limited communication can result in missed opportunities to identify challenges and provide necessary support. You need to learn and establish effective communication channels with everybody who is involved in the upbringing of that child. If for example you have a nanny at home, the truth is that the person is 80 per cent more of a parent to your child than you. They come back from school to meet the nanny, are fed by the nanny and are helped with homework by the nanny, and then they return with their emotions everywhere. That nanny is just as untrained as you are, unfortunately. So again, your children are struggling to learn even though they are passing exams. If your children spend all their time in school, you are not the one parenting them. If your children spend more time on TV than you spend with them, TV is the parent. So there is no place for creativity in your absence. Time is the currency of parenting. Because you don’t have time, you don’t communicate with them and you don’t know them. If that is your method of parenting, you have less influence than you think you have. Lack of communication will decrease creativity in a child. What kind of communication is happening in your home? Many parents were raised by house helps and that is what killed creativity in many adults today.
3. Overlooking individual learning styles or applying a one-style-fits approach in teaching and learning
Unacknowledged learning preferences may lead to disengagement and hinder the child’s ability to grasp and retain information. This is the reason we run the “Understanding your child’s learning style course” in the academy where you learn how to identify the different learning styles of your children and enhance learning. Once you understand learning styles, you won’t struggle with your child’s learning as well as discipline. Many times parents tend to teach their children with their own learning style. If you don’t understand how your children learn, they will not learn how to think on their feet. We must move our children from just mere education to solving real time problems. Africa is full of educated people, yet no creativity, no problem-solving.
4. Micromanaging Learning Process : Getting over-involved in every aspect of our children’s learning process leaves no room for independent thinking and problem-solving. Micromanaging stiffens creativity, hinders decision-making and impedes the development of self-efficacy and that’s the only place people learn to solve problems. You must encourage autonomy by providing guidance and support while allowing the child to take ownership of their learning journey. There’s something wrong if you are flustered about exam time for your child. It makes the children handicapped. The more independent a child is, the more creative the child. You need to teach your children autonomy, study skills and so on. Learning is not an emergency, it must follow a process.
5. Ignoring the importance of holistic development : Focusing on academics alone. Some parents complain about children reading every other book but academic books. But remember academic excellence is always a result of holistic development. Any child you focus on their holistic development will automatically do well. When you narrow focus on academics, you’ll hinder your child’s ability to navigate the real world challenges and collaborate effectively. You must emphasise a balanced approach, nurture not only academics, but also, social, emotional, and creative aspects of a well rounded individual.
If you avoid these parenting mistakes, you are going to be at the point where you are helping your child learn and succeed. Enrol for the learning style course and get to the place where your children will get fulfille
IS YOUR CHILD STRUGGLING TO LEARN?
Your child might be struggling because you don’t understand how he learns!
My daughter is a dominant auditory learner I will say 80%. This makes her verbal and auditory coordination so apt!
A few years ago, we got them bicycles to learn, in split seconds her twin brother who is a dominant Kinesthetic learner started to ride. So kinesthetic learners find physical activities very easy to come by. Our son learned to swim the same day the swim Coach started his lessons.
In all these years, we have been looking for a way to make our daughter learn to ride because physical activities are part of our value system in our home. No, we never said “Can’t you see! your twin brother can ride easily bla bla! That stuff kills a child who would like to learn faster, it’s comparison even though parents
Well, we thought of how best we could teach her, and then boom her learning style was it. So we started to feed her ears first with the learnings on how to ride and not the actual ride itself. Then we got safety guards, …. And our big daughter decided to do the teaching job itself.
Using her dominant learning style instead of forcing and assuming she should just know…she learned how to ride her bike in 2days!!!
Do you know that understanding your child’s learning style might be the singular solution to her learning difficulties?
At The Intentional Parent Academy, we run a course where we just don’t teach parents how to identify the learning styles of their children, we also teach them how to use these learning styles to make their children study effectively and even discipline them correctly.
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